The Person Nobody Checks On: How You're Losing Friends Without Knowing It

So as we get into the message today, I just want to take the time and let you know that we get into a time where we can say some of the people that we went through through the years, some of them are no longer with us, some of them are no longer even close to us. I want to share a story with you. Let me first start by sharing a story with you. The story is about a few soldiers and I want to paint a picture for you that this is soldiers that are standing on guard. And some of the soldiers, what they do is they need to rotate. So they need to rotate. And as they rotate, literally, the one will leave the other one and then the other one will stand guard again. And as they stand on guard, they will literally say the one to the other, OK, now it's your turn, OK, now it's that one's turn and so it will go on. And there was a time that the land was literally in so much problems that you couldn't stand for one second and not keep watch because something will happen. But it came to a time that one of the soldiers become tired and he said to the other one, I'm feeling tired now. I don't know what's happening. I just need to sleep for a minute. And the other one says, but it's my turn now. And the guy says, but really, I'm telling you, I can't keep my eyes open anymore. I need to start resting. And just one guy getting angry and say, no, no, no, no, it's my turn. And they start fighting and they start fighting whose turn it is and who can take the time. And this guy that is tired now asking this guy, are you tired? And the guy says, no, I'm not. And because the guy is not tired, he then decided to say, no, I'm going to sleep because it is my turn anyway to sleep now. And lo and behold, this guy fall asleep and he wasn't even tired. And it doesn't take him like 30 minutes or so to fall into a deep sleep. And the next thing he wake up, he literally woke up with a gun against his head. And that is what make him to woke. So when he wake up and he's like, what, what, what? The next thing this soldier said to him, show me, where's your headquarters? And he look around and he look around and he saw the guy fast asleep, fast asleep. And he said, but it was your turn to look. And this guy that hold the gun to him says, what do you say? What do you mean by this? And the other guys like, no, no, no, no. I told you I'm tired. And this guy getting irated that is standing with the gun to them and the other one on the other side because they were two. And as he became irated, he said, no, no, no. Just show me where's your headquarters? And these guys, because of they fall asleep in their guarding space, one blamed the other. One blamed the other. And in blaming, both of them realized that both of them were wrong. And because both of them were wrong, it made the other one to obviously be jeopardized in the situation as well. Now, I want to bring this story to you and ask you to look at your life. Where is it that a situation like this happened in your life previously? What made you to get into a compromise situation like this? I want to take you back to the Bible. Let's do the beginning of the Bible. If you're looking at Genesis 4 verse 9, then the Lord said to Cain, where is your brother Abel? Imagine, where is your brother Abel? God is asking you today to look into your life and say that the person that came with you for all this 10, 11 months, sitting in the 12 month now, where is that person today? He's asking you, where is your brother? And you might be asking, no, I'm talking specifically about why is your brother not in church? No, no, no, my brother, no, no, no, my sister. I'm not talking about that kind of Abel I'm talking about. I'm talking about the person that started the business with you and you are in your 12 month and God is asking you, the person that you started the business with, where is that person? That is what I'm asking you. I'm asking you, the person that last, when you saw the person, the person was so hungry and God is asking you, where is that person? You saw the person hungry, but you didn't even bother to give something to that person. You didn't even bother to say, all right, no, I can see you are hungry at this moment. Let me just put something for bread for you. Or let me buy you a lunch because lo and behold, I can tell you now, where we have made the mistake is to have the saying that God will bless you while you sit with the blessing in your pocket. No, no, no, no, no. I'm not asking you, where is your brother Abel, the one that you killed? I'm talking about the one that is still alive. Why are you keep on saying, I don't know, am I my brother's keeper? I don't know, am I my brother's keeper? God is expecting Cain to take care of his brother. He was expecting Cain to take care of his brother, showing that we can be together and well-being of others will be seen through. Where is your son that you ask him to do certain things for you and he didn't do it? Where is your daughter that when you were saying to her, please take out the washing or let me rather say, hang the washing. And when you come back the night, your daughter is like, I forgot mommy. Now you have to re-wash the washing because now it smells muff, muff is in English, but it has an off smell. Your brother Abel, it has nothing to do with you killing the person but it has to do with you holding the person and moving them into a right direction. Let me ask you, where is your brother Abel? I don't know. Am I my brother's keeper? I can guarantee you now one of the things that my son will have a problem with. He will not be able to tell his sister to go and take a bath even though he can know she smells. My son won't. My son will say but she knows that she must go and take a bath. Am I my brother's keeper? Yes, you are. Yes, you are. I want you to understand that you need to support each other in difficult times. Am I my brother's keeper? No, his brother died. I don't know where he is. Aren't you supposed to know so that you can go and comfort him? Genesis 4 verse 9. Am I my brother's keeper? I want you to look at the different side of it. Sometimes you are too proud to ask for help. The Bible is asking where is your brother Abel? Now, because you are too proud to ask for help you are killing yourself by not asking for help. And remember, this is something I can tell you now. What I am talking about is literally something that is not a preaching for you. It's more a preaching for me than what it is a preaching for you. Because remember, everything God is talking to God is talking to myself. I am just taking it and making it us and not me. I am talking about us and not about me. While God specifically spoke to me about it. The reason I am saying to you Am I my brother's keeper? I want you to think of something. This is what I want you to think of. Picture this. If you take care of your brother it will be a reciprocation for him to take care of you as well. It's not a one way street. It's not a exuc exuc. It's not a I just want I want. I was actually during the course of the week I sent my wife a message. I told her about somebody who was not greeting me for years and suddenly now need a favor and now saying oh okay can you help me? It's in the witness. So am I my brother's keeper doesn't mean that the brother that you are in need of only at that time you will make the means or the way and means to see that person. It's not that only time that you now send the message how are you? Just because you wanted something. Get to the next step. As I was saying to you some of the times pride is making you to not see that you are in need of somebody. Jethro, you know what what happened? Jethro was overworking himself. Ricardo was overworking himself. He did so many things. Ronelle was cooking, cleaning at the same time taking the shave for a bath. And you know what? She even woke up earlier to have breakfast for everybody. She woke up so early that it was actually somebody else that was supposed to do it. Am I my brother's keeper? You know my wife woke up early every day and a day like her birthday. She still had to make coffee for me. Imagine a birthday that is hers making coffee for me. Am I my brother's keeper? You know what Moses said? Let me give you let me talk about Moses. Moses, father-in-law was what do you call it? What was his name? Moses, father-in-law's name. I was just saying the guy's name now. Oh, Jethro, Jethro. Yeah, Jethro. Let me go to the scripture for you. I want you to go to Exodus. Exodus is the last book in the Bible. I mean, no, the second one from the beginning. The other Exodus. So Exodus is the second book in the Bible. And I want you to go to Exodus 18. Exodus 18 and I want you to read from verse 17. So I want you to read from verse 17. Now, Exodus 18, verse 17 says as follow. And Moses, father-in-law, said unto him, The thing thou doeseth is not good. Thou wilt surely wear away both thou and this people that is with thee, for this thing is too heavy for thee. Thou art not able to perform it thyself alone. Is not able to perform it thyself alone. Ronel is not able to do the house chores by herself. If every child that just take one glass, one glass. If every child that take one glass and just take that glass after you finish rinse it, wash it, put it away, wash it, rinse it, put it away. Then she doesn't have to do dishes on a Sunday morning that was supposed to be just a few. Gethru said it, ne. You will only wear yourself out. Now, I want to ask you, I've been talking for the whole time now. I want to ask you, what do you think my message is about? From the beginning. I told you a story about two soldiers. What happened? The soldier that was very tired spoke to the other soldier and says, please brah, I need you to help me out here. I feel sleepy and I'm going to fall asleep and then when I fall asleep I'm just worried I'm going to put our lives in jeopardy and the one that was so tired, the other one is so hard headed that he didn't want that one to sleep for a minute and both of them fall asleep. Low and behold, waking up with both of them having a gun to each other and now they taking they say whose responsibility it was to actually take the time while the one that was supposed to sleep at that time was not tired but the other one that was not supposed to sleep was tired and both of them now get taken up and now what is the problem? Now they are looking at each other, holding each other accountable for this situation that just happened now and now they are in trouble. So my message is actually about accountability. Are you accountable for your brother? Because I want you to actually live for your brother. I want you to take the time and literally say to your brother, is there something I can help you with? And also taking the accountability to say to your brother, ish, I'm tired. I am tired because that is what we do. We don't see our shortcomings in time and our shortcomings kill us because we did not take our brother and sister to ask for help at a time. So I want you to take this time and say to your brother, ish, l'innah, ke khatetsu no, ke choreke barok I feel I want to sleep now. I'm tired. And your brother have to keep watch. Your brother have to keep watch your every move. I sometimes see certain things that happen in our lives and in our lives as it happened we tend to look after it only after some time. Actually I had a conversation yesterday with somebody and they said that at work some compromising situation happened and he just he just had to, how do you say, he just became a part of the situation. And the situation led him to have both of them, both of all of them in fact being fired. Because to him knowing it's wrong but not saying anything or not saying guys let's stop this. How do you hold somebody accountable? It's hectic. Some of the people haven't been in church for years. And all you do is like they're not going to come anymore. And we leave it at that. We leave it at that. But it's important to know at that time it's the third time now you haven't come. What is wrong? It's becoming the fourth time now. What is wrong? Now you carry all the chairs and everything together on your own. Now, Jethro was literally holding Moses responsible or accountable for the fact that he can see that Moses is about to kill himself for not giving some of the job to others. And when I say some of the job I say through accountability involve a constructive advice. That's accountability. I can't be telling you. I sometimes think you should know. I think Litan must know that in the morning when he wake up he had to brush his teeth. But the moment he starts speaking to me I just smell Wankha. It's smelling. And I'm not saying anything. I should be holding him accountability. Did you brush your teeth? He will say no. Okay, go. Because you should know that in the morning when you wake up is certain things that you should be doing. Jethro told Moses, you are killing yourself. You are tiring yourself. Let's take the time and talk about David and Nathan. Do you know in 2 Samuel 12 I'm reading 2 Samuel 12 verse 7 Then Nathan said to David, you are the man. This is what the Lord, the God of Israel say, I anointed you, you David king over Israel and I delivered you from the hand of Saul. So what Nathan done there he said, brah, God has put you over. He said, God has put you over. How can you do sin with Bathsheba? How can you? I am the leader that is supposed to hold somebody accountable and say, ah, you are doing wrong. I have not done that. Sometimes it's very important when it comes to accountability to speak with love but also in truth. Do you know what I mean by speak with love and also in truth? Let me explain to you. We going out, I did not tell my daughter to take a bath. Now we going out and what happened is I smell something and I'm not saying anything to her because I'm afraid I'm going to offend her. By the time we go out, somebody say, but why your kid is smelling? Going to school. Let's make an example now. Going to your school and the kids at school is starting to making fun of her. So now the kids is making fun of her because of me I love her but I didn't want her to tell her the truth. Now the kids at school is making fun of her for not taking a bath. Now she is smelling. So accountability is to be accountable making sure that they know they should take a bath. Accountability means lovingly correcting each other. So as much as I tell you go and bath you must tell me, hey you can't say I must go and bath but you are smelling. Go and take a bath. You can't tell me let's go and take both a bath then if it may be. Sometimes accountability is also sending somebody out. You know sometimes I can't do certain things but it's just best to ask somebody to quickly go and help me. Levan, take a photo. I can't be speaking here and take photos. I can't be speaking here and focusing on on on thank you. I can't be speaking here and taking a video of myself. You see what I'm saying? Sometimes you have to send out somebody. Levan, praise for Maida. That's accountability. So sometimes I have to tell you. So we were out of electricity and now I'm sitting with something that needs to be done. But I don't know how to do it. Because I was the only one who knows how to. I've not shown anybody what to do. Taking accountability. Responsibility of you doing everything all the time. Making a time like this to be a bit of a difficulty. Because what I've done is I've put the wifi on the UPS. And now the electricity is on. But at the same time the UPS is going to die before the service is finished maybe. And if we switch it over now the wifi will switch off and the signals will be gone. So now that thing needs to be on charge. I don't know which charger it used but anyway. All I'm saying is accountability. Let me go to a scripture for you. Let me go to Luke 10. Luke 10 verse 1 says After this the Lord appointed 72 others and sent them appointed 72 others and sent them two by two ahead of him to every town and place where he was about to go. So Jesus when you're looking at it, Jesus sent his disciples in pairs for mutual accountability. What I mean by that is he said I'm sending you out two so that if one is tired the other one can lead the way. You see why he sent out two. Because he knew if I only sent out one the other one might grow weary or tired too early. It's actually a support structure and that is why when you come to a December like this there the support structure that has kept you where you are is also going to keep you at this time. Do you know that this time of the year it's where people are most most of them having a problem I'm trying to think of the word for it, what is it called? Of loneliness. Do you know they feel lonely? For the whole year they didn't bother about anybody. But now suddenly somebody doesn't give them a call. Hey Merry Christmas Happy Festival. Nobody give them a call. So they feel lonely. It's a lot of times like this where a lot of people feel lonely. And when they feel lonely I'm just making an example of a church. Let's talk about the church. Now you find what we call ... ... ... ... ... So what happened is that we making a joke out of it. But it's not the other person's fault. Let me explain what I mean. They call themselves 11 months old Christians. The guy ... ... ... ... He's the one that goes out to everybody and tell them about Jesus. But when he needs somebody to tell him that Jesus is still there there's nobody. Now do you know what that guy does? Instead of going to the church because the church didn't bother to even go to him once during the course of the year now he goes to the people that he went out to and talk about Jesus because they gave him a better acceptance and now he went back to the world. This is why you call themselves the 11 month Christians. Because of the rejection they felt at the time where most people are accepting him for who he is at this time. The loneliness makes him ... ... ... Just think of it. Why is it that somebody at this time suddenly moved back and no longer want to come to church? Because of the acceptance of the world and the rejection of the church. Do you know the early churches? Those years churches. Let's go to Acts. Acts 2 verse 42 Acts 2 verse 42 Acts 2 verse 42 says the following And they continued Steadfastly in the Apostles doctrine and fellowship and in breaking of bread and in prayers. They continued steadfastly. 43 it says And fear came upon every soul and many wonders and signs were done by the Apostles. And signs were done by the Apostles at that time never. And all that believed were together all things common. And they sold their possessions and goods and parted them to all men as every man had need. And they continually daily with one accord in the temple and breaking bread from house to house did eat their meat with gladness and singleness of heart. Praising God and having favor with all the people. And the Lord added to the church daily as such should be saved. Did you hear what he says? He says You are hungry at home so I sold my car to buy bread for you to have bread at home. We are together on the same. So it means that anytime whenever we go into church and somebody is stressing about some sort of issue that they might not be able to resolve, you as another person must take the accountability and make it happen. Take up that accountability and make it happen. Because if you don't make it happen it might be that the person might detour to another site. Detour to another site. You know what Paul did? He took accountability in leadership. Let's go to if you go to Galatians 2 Galatians 2 verse 11 to 14 Galatians 2 verse 11 to 14 says as follow When someone came to Antioch or let me rather go Galatians 2 Galatians 2 verse 11 says He says but when Peter was come to Antioch I would stand with him to the face because he was to blame for before that certain came from James he did eat with the Gentiles but when they came then but when they come he withdrew and separated himself hearing them which were of the circumcision and the other Jews dissembled likewise with him in so much that Barnabas also was carried away with the dissimilation also was carried away with the dissimilation. You see if you see when Cephas came to Antioch I opposed him to his face because he stood condemned. He said hey bruh you're doing something wrong it's not right what you are doing. So standing in this leadership position Paul confronted Peter so when he confronted Peter he act and says you are hypocritical you are hypocritical by withdrawing from the Gentile believers. So it's all about saying to somebody hey bruh why are you with that fellow these are the people that actually takes you to an 11 month contract with Jesus and in the 12 month you go back why are you going back to them? That's what Peter was saying to Paul actually. Who is it that you need to hold accountable and not just accountable for him not coming to church but I'm talking about holding that person accountable for the plans that you had together to go on a fishing trip and just last minute he pulled out. Hey bruh we were supposed to go fishing no no no you are coming whether you have the money or not I will pay for you hold accountable for you were supposed to take a bath at 7 o'clock hey it's 7 look there don't talk nonsense just hey look at the time let's go done. The Bible says in Galatians 6 verse 1 and 2 it says that brothers and sisters if someone is caught in sin you who live by the spirit should restore that person gently how do you restore that person gently? It means you must watch we must watch ourselves so you also may not be tempted like I want to I want to say to you hey you made a mistake but my anger issues make you to make me to confront you so that I get in sin by hitting you because you don't want to listen to me so you not be also not be tempted carry each other's burden and in this way will fulfill the law of Christ accountability is about the gentle how do you say gentle restoration it's not about hey no we're helping each other gently I'm reminded of the of the parable of the talents the parable of the talents the guy came back he says bruh didn't I ask you about this money money issue what diamond said no I know you to be the man you wanna box us if we don't make plan to keep your money that you've given to us and you know what happened? God holds us accountable for using the resources and times because what happened is that he said I gave you I didn't see go and bury it I gave you the talent use your talent I gave you a talent use your talent what is your talent? what is your talent what too much drawing oh you see so draw I know the other one who is whenever somebody say one you say five I know that one as well meh so that talent use it wisely there I wanna come back to the story I told you about the thing I was saying in the morning I mean in the beginning of the sermon two guys one fall asleep while he was supposed to watch the other one also fall asleep while you were not tired son of men no no Ezekiel sorry let me talk about Ezekiel 33 Ezekiel 33 verse 7 son of men I have made you a watchman for the people over Israel the people of sorry the people of Israel so hear the word I speak and give them warning from me so God appointed Ezekiel at that time as a watchman to warn Israel of their sin if Ezekiel didn't warn them of their sin it would have been a problem but him he was hold accountable for delivering that message so sometimes with us being prophetic and don't tell people what we can see in the prophetic makes us to be accountable for that person's life king where is your brother king where is your brother evil am I my brother's keeper king where is your brother am I my brother's keeper machine where is your brother am I my brother's keeper sometimes there's certain things that happen if I tell you I'm hungry I don't tell you because I want to brag about my hunger I sometimes tell you to do something about it so cook the food if you can if it's in your possibility or in your ability to cook the food do it the Bible says in Hebrews Hebrews 10 verse 24 and 5 and let us consider how we may spur one another on towards love and good deeds so we must help each other we must spur each other on to love and good deeds so if you're doing something wrong I must tell you that's not the way to go change it so not giving up meetings together as some are in the habit of doing but encouraging one another and this is not just about church I'm not talking about the church because the get together sometimes it's just the plans that you had to have a great time somewhere just making an example now having somebody responsible holding somebody responsible for having a Christmas lunch but the person that was supposed to make the gammon just disappeared the person that was supposed to make the food disappeared now all of you sit there with the cold drink and the salads but the real food is not there that's what I'm talking about helping each other responsible not to come together for the gathering of the saints for the gathering of the saints but the thing that I need to tell you about accountability is that when it comes to accountability you have to help somebody accountable but make it clear you know what I say by clear I'm not expecting you to take a bath every day but I know for a fact that if you don't bath every day you'll stink not even stinking but mop so if you don't wash if you don't bath there's some black marks in certain areas especially by the neck it shows so if I don't tell you you have to bath every day because the reason for you bathing every day is because of the wrinkles the snake skin that will form on your neck so there needs to be clarity so often we struggle with accountability because expectations are so unclear like you don't give it clarity so the Bible encourages us communication and understanding if you go to Amos 3 verse 3 it says can two walk together except they be agreed can we can me and you go to Marabastad if I didn't say to you we're going to Marabastad and you want to go to mainland by the time we get to Marabastad you'll be fighting me I said we need to go to mainland can two walk together except that they agreed where are we going the clarity is that we're going to Marabastad after that I've dropped you by Marabastad you do your thing we go to mainland no we're not going to Marabastad in mainland today why are you looking at me like that so make it clear so that somebody can understand the one thing that we should hold each other accountable for is our spiritual growth I cannot let you die and go to heaven because I didn't tell you to take Christ up as your Lord and Savior if someone explicitly commit a sin you need to be held accountable for that I need to tell you hey it's wrong if you're looking at Hebrews 3 verse 13 it says but exhort one another daily not after every three months after every one year daily so what does it mean you need to have a phone account that can last what phone calls daily while it is called today lest any of you be hardened through the deceitfulness of sin so while it's called today there might not be a tomorrow if I didn't tell you I'm about to finish I won't be long today in fact we still have 15 minutes but I think I'll make it in five so when we talk about accountability we have to hold each other spiritually spiritually accountable what is the problem the problem is that our own situations in life makes us not to see others problems the dark cloud over me is clouding my life so much that I don't see the dark cloud over my brother and sister's life I mean it's true we all have our own struggles in life I mean personal struggles can make it hard for us to focus on others I always make the example of the of the guy with a toothache somebody with a toothache will not help somebody next to them that just step on a landmine and crying for their legs please come and put something bandage on my leg I have toothache why must I check your leg that is off that is how how our problems makes us not to see others the pain that you go through makes you to not see others but do you know that when you not focusing on your pain somebody else can reciprocate because you help them what that means is if I help you you feel obliged to help me in return if I buy you something you feel obliged that you want to give me something in return if you go to Romans 1 verse 18 it highlight that God hold people accountable for the truth that they know so if I know that you need Jesus I'm accountable for you not knowing about Jesus James 4 even emphasize if anyone if anyone then knows the good they ought to do and doesn't do it it is sin for them if you know the thing that you are doing it's not good let's leave it there I think I will not go there let's talk about steps to to be holding somebody accountable the steps to hold somebody accountable is firstly to pray for discernment pray for discernment ask God for wisdom to understand when and how to hold somebody accountable not just holding them accountable but when to hold them accountable if I tell you I'm going to give you 300 rent to buy electricity and your electricity goes off because I didn't buy the electricity I mean I didn't give you the 300 rent it means that you should come back and say to me hey bro 300 rent where is it sometimes it's discerning that you might have forgotten so when you discern that you might have forgotten you ask no it's not yours everybody got it from school ah Mathew it's not yours everybody got it from school looking at something there looking like hey so let me talk about another way that you can cultivate accountability is by intentionally speaking and telling them what you would like how can I say if I say I want to hold Laverne accountable for taking the pictures I must say to her take pictures the whole service through not expecting her to have taken pictures love pictures and when the service is finished now I'm saying ah bro didn't take I'm expecting Leighton to know that he must watch the camera the whole time but I don't tell him hey bro if you see something wrong there on the camera check it so you need to boa speak intentionally speak and sometimes also what you need to do is moral accountability you know how it is to moral accountability if I struggle and I tell you I'm struggling even there was a time I told you that I didn't feel motivated or something I felt off during the course of the week or some some way I felt like almost like somebody who wanted to give up and I spoke to my wife about it because I knew if I'll be sitting in that same situation for longer it might cause me to run into a depression state and you know what that depression does it sometimes take a rope and hang you because I knew I'm not feeling well and I acknowledge I'm not feeling well so I moral accountability to her to say to me hey no don't worry you know it's a balance so be transparent about your own struggle that is modeling accountability tell somebody else bro you know what I'm not going to pray but I also need you to understand a few things the importance of accountability I'm going to read everything now so that I don't deviate from what I want to say the importance of accountability is iron sharpens iron so one person sharpens another Proverbs 27 verse 17 iron sharpen irons so one person sharpen another so accountability is God's design for spiritual growth it's God's design for protection it's also God's design for mutual encouragement so helping each other one hand was another hand if I'm down and you up you can take me up to it also mutual encouragement if you're looking at the coach in the sport let's talk about let's say the athlete athletics or whatever what you call them athletes a coach help an athlete to improve meaning to say the coach take accountability to help them to refine things it's the same thing that me and you if we are struggling in our godly walk I need to tell you how it is to make it easier that's how I need to do accountability ensure that we don't drift into isolation or sometimes even sin that is unnoticed two are better than one according to Ecclesiastes 4 two are better than one two are better than one if either of them fall one can help the other now I would like you to also understand how to be held accountable like if I am giving you my goal how can you hold me accountable for reaching my goal number one is be honest if I am in the making mistake mistake tell me in my face don't come and scanner tell me straight the thing you are doing is not right so be honest admit areas of weaknesses or struggle where accountability is needed be open so allow trusted people in your life to speak the truth and I want to read it with the scriptures as well but I am not going to read the scriptures I am just giving you the scriptures I am looking at the time I want us to finish early be honest admit areas of weaknesses or struggle where accountability is needed which is in Psalm 32 verse 5 Psalm 32 verse 5 you can go and read it but this is the honesty we are talking about then number two is be open meaning allowing trusted people into your life to speak the truth according to Galatians 2 verse I mean Galatians 6 verse 2 also at the same time be humble accept correction and guidance without pride be humble is like please you are speaking too loud when you preach who are you to tell me I will speak even louder because you tell no no no is be humble to accept guidance and correction Proverbs 12 verse 1 that is be humble Proverbs 12 verse 1 be also willing because it is no use of somebody telling you to do something but you don't do it comment to follow through with a great action it is like I can almost say don't be saying I am going to do it but you are not going to do it so be willing to do it according to 1 John 1 verse 7 according to 1 John 1 verse 7 how to hold somebody accountable is speak in I mean speak in love don't be hush how do you hold somebody accountable the first one I actually was supposed to be saying how I can be held myself accountable is to be honest to be open to be humble and to be willing but how do you hold others accountable is to speak in love correctly gently not harshly which is inefficient 4 verse 15 Muni hey you don't ask questions don't just assume don't just assume why aren't you in church it's an it's a attack yeah why aren't you in church is an attack question I am attacking you so you don't ask questions where you assume that the person should be in church maybe the person is in another church so don't assume that they are not in church they are probably just in another church ask how the person is doing don't just assume hey we are not as you are right looking at the face and you just assume the face looks happy but deep down it's not right Proverbs 20 verse 5 Proverbs 20 verse 5 ask questions pray together is another one pray together Philippians 4 verse 6 the praying together is committed issue to God seeking the wisdom and help of him and also another one that we tend to forget is to follow up if you say you are hungry now I don't come back and ask you are you still hungry because I just made some food do you want something to eat so follow up take accountability by follow up accountability requires consistency not a one time thing so in Hebrews 10 24 and 5 Hebrews 10 verse 24 and 5 verses 24 and 5 so let us consider how we can spur one another towards love and good deeds the practical idea is find an accountable partner somebody who can hold you accountable and you can hold them accountable but also at the same time it doesn't have to be somebody that you just ask them hold me accountable for this and you don't have to have something on them to hold them accountable for but you can use somebody else so have found an accountability partner and also number two is define clear expectations clear not vague because clear expectations say for argument's sake the guy have a life goal he is telling you my life goal I would like to be this let's make an example I would like to be a globe what's that means light a light but every time the guy goes dumb you don't ask you said you want to be the light why are you dumb so that's clear expectation he said light so you can have clear set regular check-ins so meaning to say every time maybe after three weeks five weeks you ask hey who's good as you're right that's a clear regular check-ins pray for one another daily so keep them on prayer all the time cover each other in prayer to strengthen spiritual resilience encourage and celebrate another one is encourage and celebrate victory encourage and celebrate victory so meaning to say that every time your accountability partner has done something nicely celebrate with them celebrate with them so I want you to take this time and look into your review rear view mirror yeah rear view mirror rear view mirror so look into your rear view mirror and look at the time where there's somebody that you can help to get them accountable or you to hold you accountable who is there that can hold you accountable for not playing playstation till 12 o'clock at night because mommy and daddy sleeps at seven if you set the time look at somebody who can help you to keep that time commit to be somebody's keeper like a brother's keeper commit to somebody's keeper that's it heavenly father I worship you I praise you I exalt your name I lift your name up high because of who you are not because of what you've done but just because of who you are Yere van ali Yere go ali Yersers Mother of everything I trust in you this morning that as this word went out for the guard your word will not return to your void your word will cut to bone and marrow and will touch wherever it's necessary so therefore in the mighty name of Jesus Christ our Lord and savior I pray now this morning for the guard that you will undertake for us everywhere we go for this week blessings will follow us everywhere we go for this week We are protected by your angels everywhere we go for this week Father God we thank you that the blood of Christ is covering us so that wherever we go everything will be seen where you are going for us Father God. So in the mighty name of Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior I also pray for the God for those ones that is going to listen to this Father God let them not hear what I am saying but let them hear what the Spirit of God is saying in the mighty name of Jesus Christ the Lord and Savior now may the grace of our Lord Jesus the love of God the sweet fellowship of the Holy Spirit rest and abide with us all until Jesus comes surely goodness and mercy shall follow us all the days of our lives and we shall dwell in the house of the Lord forever and ever in Jesus mighty name amen and amen